The Courage to Call…

The Courage to Call…

It takes courage. Not the kind of courage you would think of when physical danger is present but the courage to face the truth that lay between your ears. The courage needed to face the darkness in your mind. The darkness no one can see but you.

Courage has two meanings…

One is a physical manifestation based out of fear of survival. Many times, when we think of courage, we think of a physical act of bravery to protect from an outside threat.

The other meaning of courage is to understand the actions needed to face the enemies in our mind. The negative thoughts, repetitive anxiety, emptiness, loneliness and facing the sadness we hold close.

I wish we could be more open about mental health. It is hard to understand the pain people carry around on the inside because we cannot see the physical pain burdened they carry. The stigma of depression and anxiety can lead to unnecessary pain… but have you thought about what courage would look like if you stood up cared for yourself?

What if you had the courage to reach out and find someone to talk to?

What if you didn’t have to worry about what other people would say, think or do when you opened up about your feelings?

Why wouldn’t you make the call or take the action to start healing yourself on the inside?

Where do you find the courage to take the step forward and reach out for help?

Courage is on the inside… and understanding the enemy within will cause more harm in a shorter amount of time than any enemy from the outside.

You don’t have to fight the voices in your head alone. As complicated as the human mind can be, we are also simple creatures of habit. We can learn to listen and understand the voices in our head rather than fighting to push them away. The voices are trying to tell us something. The voices from our subconscious mind are trying to communicate a message to our conscious mind… and we continue to bury the voices to avoid the pain of the truth. We numb the voices with food, booze, drugs, sex, gambling, “love” and many other vices society has deemed acceptable in order to deal with the pain of our perceived reality.

I can only speak for myself, but I know how difficult it can be to talk to someone… I was forced to find the courage within to face my own demons. I have put off making the phone call to a professional for many months… I feared the call. I feared the information. I feared the result…

It wasn’t until the voices in my head we screaming with excruciating pain that I made the call… I had hit my pain threshold. I took everything I could take on my own. I buried my shame and insecurities and dialed the number I had been looking at for months…

I made the call.

I talked to a professional.

I spoke my thoughts, feelings and actions.

I learned.

I understood.

I received some guidance.

I received some encouragement.

I received some support to move forward.

I had an action plan when I left the call.

A call I thought would shatter my self-worth turned out to add more to my self-esteem than I have gained in the last year. I felt heard. I felt understood. I felt courageous.

I found the courage to take one step forward and I found something much greater than my fears…

I found another light to move forward as I climb my way back from the bottom…

If you know someone who is struggling… please give them the courage to call. Sadness, depression, anxiety, loneliness… we all have needs and sometimes we take poor actions in order to receive the love and attention we need. I am glad a caring friend gave me the love, attention and support I needed so I could find the courage within to make a phone call I had been putting off for way too long.

Don’t wait… the pain isn’t worth the loss of your self-worth. If you need guidance, please make the call today.

Published by Gary Stotler

Gary Stotler is a father, running, fitness, weight loss and personal development addict. Formally 400 pounds, Gary has naturally lost 200 pounds, created a coaching & speaking business and has become a 100 mile ultra-runner. Holding a degree in Psychology & Sociology, certifications from the National Academy of Sports Medicine as a personal trainer, mindset & behavioral modification coaching, a certification in DISC personality assessment coaching and he is a certified speaker, coach & mentor with the John Maxwell Team. Gary firmly believes, if we take One Step at a Time, nothing is impossible. He is determined to let his actions show people what is possible and hopes to help you shake up your thoughts, change your actions and create your future.

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