“Mind control is the result of self-discipline and habit. You either control your mind or it controls you. There is no half-way compromise. The most practical of all methods for controlling the mind is the habit of keeping it busy with a definite purpose, backed by a definite plan.” Napoleon Hill; Think and Grow Rich

“Here’s the key to success and to failure: We become what we think about. Now, let me repeat that. We become what we think about.” Earl Nightingale; The Strangest Secret

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day and apparently I kept using the words awesome and amazing when referring to everything going on. They looked at me dead in the eye and asked how everything could be going so great when it seems nothing is going good at all… I was a little taken back by the question and I guess I never realized I was using those words. I had no idea I was smiling as much as I am. When we were talking about our problems, I was looking for something to get out of them, looking for positives, and looking for a way to solve my problems.

They on the other hand were not looking at their problems the same way. They are disgusted with life right now. Nothing is going right for them. As they asked me the question and mentioned the words I was using in disgust, I realized something. As much B.S. as I’m going through right now, I’m constantly looking for ways to improve. I’m looking for the life lessons I can get out of the situations I’m in. I want to control the outcome, not hope it gets better with no action.

Granted, I’m failing epically at most everything right now, but I have a plan to recover and come out stronger and better than I was before. I want to learn as much as I can from the depression so I can learn to control it as much as possible on my own. I want to learn from my sobriety and let it lead to more clarity as I move forward in my life. I want to learn from my failed relationships so I don’t make the same mistakes again and hopefully I can salvage as much of the remaining relationships as I can.

I know I’m far from perfect when it comes to my attitude. I know I have let myself slip into what feels like an endless abyss of hell. Hopefully when all is said and done, and I’m to a point in my life to hit the restart button, I can move forward with the positive attitude I’ve developed over the past five years. I want to know that whatever challenges of life come at me, I can stare back at them with a smile and shout give me your worst.


Trust in the process and believe in yourself for one day you will wake up and be where you are.

We don’t know we’ve arrived until we get there.

I hope where you are going is where you want to be.


Run Epic my Friends

Published by Gary Stotler

Gary Stotler is a father, running, fitness, weight loss and personal development addict. Formally 400 pounds, Gary has naturally lost 200 pounds, created a coaching & speaking business and has become a 100 mile ultra-runner. Holding a degree in Psychology & Sociology, certifications from the National Academy of Sports Medicine as a personal trainer, mindset & behavioral modification coaching, a certification in DISC personality assessment coaching and he is a certified speaker, coach & mentor with the John Maxwell Team. Gary firmly believes, if we take One Step at a Time, nothing is impossible. He is determined to let his actions show people what is possible and hopes to help you shake up your thoughts, change your actions and create your future.

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